When you are dealing with a split from your ex, whether you were married or not, you will have to deal with child custody issues if you have a child together. The child custody process isn't easy. Most of the time, you and your ex will each want to spend as much time with your child as you can. This can make having to hash out a schedule for the child rather difficult.
Remaining a part of your child's life is the main priority for many parents who have been thrust into a child custody case. For many parents, this case comes because of a divorce. You might be used to seeing your child on a daily basis. While that might not be possible if you and your child's other parent aren't living together or in a relationship, you can try to work out a child custody agreement that allows you to spend as much time with your child as possible.
When parents divorce, the children are usually stuck in the middle. The children might think that they are the cause for the divorce. In an instant, the child's life is overturned. They were used to having both parents active in their lives and suddenly, one parent isn't there. Fortunately, it is often still possible for both parents to remain active parts of the child's life.
Many people have the idea that custody cases must be long court battles where the parents are in a very adversarial situation. However, this doesn't have to be the case. More and more parents are turning to more cooperative methods, such as collaborative divorce and mediation, to address these matters.
Parents want to spend time with their children as often as possible. Parents who are divorced might not get to spend as much time with their children as they want to. That is often made even worse when the parents don't live in the same area. For some families, it isn't feasible for a child to go back and forth between parents because there are simply too many miles between them. Working out visitation in that case is often challenging.
The end of a marriage is a traumatic event in a person's life -- even if he or she is the person who filed for divorce. When there are children in the picture, the divorce seems to get a bit more stressful since the children's best interests have to be considered. Child custody orders, whether they are a part of a divorce or not, are very important since they lay out the expectations and plans for the child's life.
We've talked here before about the challenges that gay couples still face in getting custody and visitation rights to their children even though same-sex marriage is now legal throughout the country. One transgender Maryland man is fighting his way through the Maryland judicial system for the right to see the boy he considers his son.
When it comes to child custody, there are many life events that can dramatically change how the former spouses deal with their custody arrangement. A change in a person's salary, or the loss of a job, can force a change in the way one spouse pays the other in child support, or it could force a change in custody as one of the spouses may not be able to fully support the child.
Any child custody battle between divorced parents can be heart-wrenching. However, what if you helped your spouse raise a child whom you loved as your own and then found out that you can no longer see that child after you divorce?
Whether you and your spouse are sharing custody of your children after a divorce or you have sole custody, your parenting style will likely need to undergo some changes now that you and your ex are no longer a team. Many divorced people find that they actually become better parents after they divorce. We'll look at some of the reasons why.