A divorce is a major event for the adults involved, but it can often feel like the end of the world for children who are involved. Parents must take steps to help their children work through the issues that are caused by the divorce.
Visitation is a huge part of child custody cases. You and your child need time together so you can build and maintain a relationship. This can't happen if you aren't able to see your child. As we discussed in a previous blog post, visitation schedules vary from one case to the next. The important thing to remember is that your child's best interests must remain at the heart of the case.
When you are working through a child custody case, you will have to come up with a plan for visitation so that both parents can spend time with the child. This is done either through mediation or through the judge deciding what is best for the child.
As you go through a child custody battle, it is easy to focus on how to get to your ex. You might want to make things difficult for your ex. Trying to do that can make your focus move away from your child, and it is crucial that your focus remains on what is best for your child.
One huge issue that can plague children of divorce is where they are going to spend each holiday. Some children might dread the holidays because there isn't any clear plan for when they will go with which parent. Worse yet, their parents might fight over who is going to have them when.
The previous post on this blog discussed how important it is to put your child first if you are in the midst of a custody battle. The importance of doing that doesn't end when the agreement is made. Instead, putting your child first must continue until your child is an adult who is making his or her own decisions.
When you are dealing with a split from your ex, whether you were married or not, you will have to deal with child custody issues if you have a child together. The child custody process isn't easy. Most of the time, you and your ex will each want to spend as much time with your child as you can. This can make having to hash out a schedule for the child rather difficult.
Remaining a part of your child's life is the main priority for many parents who have been thrust into a child custody case. For many parents, this case comes because of a divorce. You might be used to seeing your child on a daily basis. While that might not be possible if you and your child's other parent aren't living together or in a relationship, you can try to work out a child custody agreement that allows you to spend as much time with your child as possible.
When parents divorce, the children are usually stuck in the middle. The children might think that they are the cause for the divorce. In an instant, the child's life is overturned. They were used to having both parents active in their lives and suddenly, one parent isn't there. Fortunately, it is often still possible for both parents to remain active parts of the child's life.
Many people have the idea that custody cases must be long court battles where the parents are in a very adversarial situation. However, this doesn't have to be the case. More and more parents are turning to more cooperative methods, such as collaborative divorce and mediation, to address these matters.