If you are like many noncustodial parents, you may have a visit with your child planned in the coming weeks now that school is back in session. Schedules are tighter during the school year so you value the time with your child. However, this limited time may lead you to feel pressured to overspend, over-plan or even unknowingly overstep boundaries.
Telling your kids that you and your spouse are breaking up is tough. Naturally enough, you're probably under a great deal of stress yourself, and your own feelings about the situation may be mixed, at best. You know that your kids won't be thrilled, and you may worry the situation could cause them long-term harm.
The manner in which child custody is handled in the American court system has seen a number of changes over the course of history. In the early days of our nation, men received full rights to their children in the event of a divorce. Later, the presumption was made that mothers hold superior nurturing abilities, and men were hard-pressed to obtain significant rights to their kids. Currently, courts in Maryland and beyond have signed on to the belief that child custody should be shared equally between divorcing parents, an idea that has received considerable criticism.
The holidays are a time of family. Most adults shape their holiday traditions around the experiences of their own childhoods, whether it is preserving a special memory or jettisoning a tradition that only caused strife and turmoil. When a Maryland family is divided by divorce, the holidays can present a difficult challenge, especially in cases where child custody matters are in dispute. However, there are ways that parents can minimize the stress felt by their children, and preserve the holidays as a time of joy.
Maryland couples going through the divorce process likely know that there are many post-divorce considerations, which can become contentious. The family law areas of child support, child custody and visitation are of special concern for parents who are divorcing. What many couples may not consider is how their divorce will affect the upcoming holidays. How amicable and reasonable ex-spouses are with one another, and toward others, may influence how stressful the holidays are for everyone.
While it can be tempting for Rockville parents to splurge on their kids during divorce to help reassure them of their affections, some suggest that parents resist doing so. This resistance may be especially challenging if there is joint child custody, which may mean that both parents are not on the same page as far as "emotional spending." This can lead to resentment of the parent who does not spoil, and can be damaging to the way that kids view money. This may be one potential issue that parents want to address in whatever co-parenting or child custody agreement they reach during divorce negotiations.