As a parent in Maryland who is soon getting a divorce, you have plenty of questions that you'll need to ask yourself. How do you want to proceed? What property will you split? And more importantly, how will you and your partner handle raising a child together after the divorce?
Most in Rockville might assume that child custody cases are always part of larger divorce proceedings involving feuding spouses upset at each other over issues other than who gets primary custody of the kids. Yet it should be remembered that custody proceedings can also take place between unmarried couples. Some might assume that such couples bring less "baggage" into such matters, yet the fact that a couple never married does not mean that they love their kids any less than any other parent (and, by extension, will not exert the same amount of effort in fighting for what they believe to be their kids' best interests). Still, in such cases, just as it is with married parents, unwed couples are encouraged to work through custody disputes amicably.
Divorce is meant to bring about the end of any strife that exists between a couple. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. When putting more distance between yourself and your ex-spouse is not helping to ease the tension between you, you might then view relocating to a different area (or another state altogether) as the logical next step. Yet is that even an option when the two of you have children together?
Many in Rockville may have a preconceived notion of how the typical child custody case plays out: A couple initially disagrees over custody, they argue their case before a judge (launching accusations and allegations at the other), and in the end, the judge typically sides with the mother. That assumption may actually be quite outdated, as today's family courts try to place the welfare of the children involved in such cases above all else. In many situations, the outcome may be quite different than what most might expect.
A child custody battle can be stressful enough on its own, but when mental issues enter the picture, that stress can seem all the more magnified. Maryland parents who struggle with mental illness likely have preexisting complications to sort out long before divorce papers arrive. Although some argue that adding children to this mix is a wrong step, maintaining fair child custody despite the struggles can make all the difference in the lives of those involved.
Everyone makes mistakes -- it is simply part of human life. Yet the ways those mistakes are legally measured can result in potentially devastating outcomes. Countless Maryland residents live with felonies on their records, and while these offenses carry varying penalties, some live with the baggage for many years. This baggage can often be hard to explain for parents with children, especially amidst a divorce. All family issues and criminal charges aside, what typically matters most is the security of family.
If you are like many noncustodial parents, you may have a visit with your child planned in the coming weeks now that school is back in session. Schedules are tighter during the school year so you value the time with your child. However, this limited time may lead you to feel pressured to overspend, over-plan or even unknowingly overstep boundaries.
When you and your ex decide to end your marriage, one of the hardest things that you might have to do is to tell the children. Depending on the circumstances, such as your children's ages, you might need only a simple explanation of what is happening or you may need a more complex answer.
Some child custody orders are less than ideal for one of the parents. The court can't consider what is best for the parents. Instead, the court has to focus on what the child needs. This is a fine line to walk, but it is necessary to protect the children.
We recently discussed the reason why you and your ex should discuss matters related to your children. If you recall, one reason is that your child's immune system can be impacted by parents who have divorced and don't communicate. We want you to know that there are also other reasons for you and your ex to communicate.