When you and your ex decide to end your marriage, one of the hardest things that you might have to do is to tell the children. Depending on the circumstances, such as your children's ages, you might need only a simple explanation of what is happening or you may need a more complex answer.
One thing that might help you in these cases is if you and your ex can have a plan for how child custody will be handled right away. Some children feel better about changes when they know what to expect. With an upheaval as big as their parents splitting up, children will likely want to hold on to some sort of structure.
If you and your ex can work out a temporary agreement about when the child will be where, you can share this with the children so that they are reassured that they will still get to see both parents even though it won't be at home like usual.
We understand that you might have some concerns about making an agreement right now. You should remember that this a temporary measure to get you through situations that might come up from now until the child custody case is resolved.
You and your ex might find that the temporary agreement works well for the children and decide to make it permanent. You might be able to make a few minor adjustments to make the temporary agreement work long-term or you might find that the whole temporary agreement is horrid and start from scratch. In any of these cases, we can help you keep the focus on your children and protect your rights.