Many people don't realize just how stressful divorce is until they live through one of their own. Did you know that divorce is very stressful for the children involved and not just the adults? This stress on the children is something that parents can help to control, but failing to do so can have negative impacts on the child's health.
Children who have parents who don't communicate during and after a divorce are more likely to get sick than children of parents who can continue to communicate. This is often the case because parents who don't communicate directly with each other will often use the children as messengers.
Parents who aren't able to communicate with each other shouldn't expect their children to serve as messengers. Having the children pass messages puts the stress of communication on them instead of on the adults. This simply shouldn't ever happen to children of divorce.
If you and your ex can't communicate, you should consider going through counseling to find ways that you can communicate effectively. The counselor can help you learn ways that you can try to get your point across to your ex without starting a fight.
Another thing that you need to do is to have self control. It is easy to become overwhelmed and irritated to the point that you act out. This isn't something that you should do. Instead, focus on being a good role model for your child.
One way that you can reduce the stress of the divorce is by having a good child custody agreement that spells out expectations clearly. Knowing what to expect can help your child cope with the changes that are occurring.
Source: FindLaw, "Kids Are More Likely to Get Sick If Divorced Parents Don't Talk," George Khoury, Esq., accessed June 23, 2017