A divorce is a major event for the adults involved, but it can often feel like the end of the world for children who are involved. Parents must take steps to help their children work through the issues that are caused by the divorce.
There are several ways that parents can help children cope with the divorce. The first of these starts at the moment that you decide the marriage is over. You shouldn't try to discount what is going on. Instead, let the children know what is happening. Discuss the future with them. Let the children know how life is going to change. This can help the child to prepare for the changes that are forthcoming.
If you and your ex are having heated legal or personal discussions, you should handle these away from the children. Never bring the children in on arguments or contentious matters. Some children might blame themselves for what is going on if they are in the middle of things.
Keep the kids' routine as normal as possible. You should try not to let the divorce stop the children from being able to participate in the activities they enjoy.
Your children might have questions about what is going on and what is going to happen. You should try to answer these questions in an age-appropriate manner. Your child might have strong reactions to the divorce, so you should be prepared to help the child work through those.
You shouldn't ever make promises that you can't keep. If there are things that you aren't sure about as far as child custody goes, let the child know. You might be able to work out the issues that the child is concerned about in a way that will make the child happy.
Source: KidsHealth, "Help your child through a divorce," accessed May 19, 2017