Domestic violence is a serious matter that you have to think carefully about. If you are the victim of domestic violence, you might be trying to decide if you are going to leave or not. Typically, the choice comes down to how much more abuse can you take and how prepared you are to leave.
Making a plan to leave the situation might not be something pleasant to do, but it is necessary. Just because you make the plan doesn't mean that you have to leave right now. Instead, it gives you something to fall back on if you have to leave in a hurry.
One thing you have to determine is where you are going to go. You need to find a shelter who can house you and your children or find a trusted loved one who you can stay with. You need somewhere that you will be safe from your ex.
Another thing you have to think about is how you will support yourself. You might need to stash away some cash so that you can have money if you do need to leave in a hurry.
You should also make sure that you have all important documents handy. Try to keep your photo identification nearby so that you can grab it easily if you have to leave fast. This might help you to get the services you need to get back on your feet.
You might also need to consider taking legal steps, such as getting a restraining order, if you leave. This establishes a legal basis for you to keep your ex away from you, which can be very valuable.
Source: National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, "Planning Ahead," accessed March 30, 2017