Adoption is a beautiful but difficult process for everyone involved. As we recently discussed, it is imperative that you have a good understanding of various types of adoptions when you first start the process. Once the adoption is underway, you should take steps to make sure that your new child will be able to adjust.
When you adopt an infant, you probably won't have to do much to make sure that the baby can adapt to your home. If the child you adopt is older, even if he or she is a toddler, you will need to help with the adjusting period. This is often a challenging time; however, helping the child to thrive is a rewarding experience.
One of the first things you should do is to let the child know that you are the permanent family. Some of these children have moved around so much that they think of every house as a temporary place that they shouldn't grow attached to. Letting the child know that this is their final family might help them to feel more secure.
You must let the child know the house rules and your expectations from the get-go. It is all too easy to coddle the child when they first come into your home. While this is expected to some extent, make sure that you don't set the wrong impression about your home. Let the child know that you are here for them, but that they must follow the rules.
There are bound to be bumps along the way. Just like you had to work hard for the adoption process, you will have to work hard to make the adoption work. From the start of the adoption through the finalization, be sure you fully understand what is going on so you can make decisions accordingly.
Source: RainbowKids, "Helping Adopted Children Thrive," Crystal Killion, accessed Feb. 02, 2017