Many people have the idea that custody cases must be long court battles where the parents are in a very adversarial situation. However, this doesn't have to be the case. More and more parents are turning to more cooperative methods, such as collaborative divorce and mediation, to address these matters.
The mediation process allows you to work with your ex to try to find an agreement that works for both of you. Contrary to what many people think, you do not have to be on excellent terms already with your ex to consider mediation. In fact, it is often most helpful for those who find it difficult to communicate with each other.
During mediation, the mediator -- a neutral third party who is certified -- helps you and your ex work together by suggesting options you may not have considered. The mediator also ensures the discussions are productive and keeps everyone on track and dealing with the issues at hand.
While mediation is a cooperative process, it's important to note that you should still have your own legal representation throughout the process to ensure that you understand your rights and the possible implications of any proposed agreements. Your attorney can also advise you on what you may want to propose as an agreement.
Having an attorney with you throughout the mediation process also means that he or she is familiar with your situation if the mediation attempt doesn't work out. Whether you wish to understand more about how mediation works and whether it could help in your case or need an attorney to represent your through mediation, I can help.