This is the time when everyone is making New Year's resolutions. If you're recently separated or divorced, just making the resolutions is an important step. Doing your best to keep them can help make the new year a happier and healthier one for you and your children. They can also set you on the road to having a healthy relationship with your ex.
We've previously discussed the legal measures here in Maryland and throughout the country to try to keep guns out of the hands of people who have been convicted of domestic violence. According to the group Everytown for Gun Safety, 48 women are shot to death each month in this country by a current or former spouse or boyfriend.
Famous men cheating on their spouses with the nanny seems to have become almost cliche. Just this year, there have been reports that actor/director Ben Affleck and singer Gavin Rossdale's had extramarital relationships with their children's nannies that contributed to the break-up of their marriages to their famous wives (Jennifer Garner and Gwen Stefani). Then there are the cases of actors Robin Williams and Ethan Hawke who ended up marrying their children's nannies.
Many people assume that incidents of domestic violence increase over the holidays. People may be off of work and therefore together more than they'd normally be. Alcohol consumption may increase thanks to holiday get-togethers and bowl games. The increased stress of family visitors, shopping and general holiday preparation can put people on edge. If a couple is already in a precarious financial situation, the prospect of having to buy gifts for the kids, family and friends can push some people over the edge.
When parents make the decision to divorce, the children are often the ones who end as part of an emotional and legal tug of war. One way that this can be avoided is to consider the collaborative law process to avoid litigation.