Many Maryland family law attorneys advise their clients to stay off of social media during and even perhaps for some time after a divorce. No good can come from seeing what your estranged spouse is up to -- especially if it's more exciting that what you're doing. Further, anything you post on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and other sites can potentially be used against you in court.
Now Facebook has announced that it will be introducing some filtering tools to help people avoid their exes online without taking the step of unfriending them or blocking them. This filtering can help you avoid seeing your ex's name suggested as someone to tag or to include in a post or message, thus keeping a painful memory of your past from popping up in your face just as you're starting to get over him or her.
When she announced her divorce from tennis pro Ryan Sweeting this year, actress Kaley Cuoco removed all evidence of the two as a couple from Instagram. Now, you can also untag your ex from photos of both of you from Facebook without having to remove those photos from your account. After all, they're part of your life. Some day, you may want to see them again.
Another Facebook change will prevent exes from seeing what you're up to. This can be useful if you don't want him or her to know that you're vacationing with a new friend in the same spot where the two of you honeymooned. Or if you've put on some weight since the break-up, there's no need for your ex to know.
In the old days, people used to cut their exes' faces (or all of them) out of their photos. Now Facebook is making it easier to separate from your spouse or former romantic partner on social media so that you can more easily heal as you move on.
Many of us rely on social media to keep up with friends far away, to exchange political views with like-minded people or simply to look at feel-good puppy videos when we're feeling down. However, if you're going through a divorce, talk with your family law attorney about your social media use and presence during this transitional time in your life.
Source: Huffington Post, "Facebook Will Stop Torturing You With Photos Of Your Ex," Jenna Amatulli, Nov. 19, 2015