Whether you and your spouse are sharing custody of your children after a divorce or you have sole custody, your parenting style will likely need to undergo some changes now that you and your ex are no longer a team. Many divorced people find that they actually become better parents after they divorce. We'll look at some of the reasons why.
You can place more focus on your children's well-being. You no longer have to deal with an unhappy, combative or dysfunctional marriage. Further, you no longer have to balance your children's needs with those of your spouse. Many parents find themselves working harder to make sure that their kids are happy and well-adjusted since they've gone through the upheaval of a divorce.
You learn to place more value on the time you have with your children if they aren't with you full-time. Many people find themselves more likely to put down their phone and other distractions to be completely in the moment when their children are with them. They also develop new family traditions that belong just to their children and them, which can deepen the parent-child bond.
Your children have likely seen you become a stronger, more independent person. You're doing things that you relied on their other parent to do previously. They will see you struggle through new challenges but ultimately figure things out.
You may not be able to spoil your children with electronics, weekends at the Eastern Shore and the latest style of Nikes that they grew used to when you and your spouse were together. However, that's not necessarily a bad thing. Children of divorced parents often learn important lessons about budgeting, living within their means and the value of a dollar that they can carry with them into adulthood.
It may not always be easy, but focusing on how to make your relationship with your children stronger than ever after divorce can help everyone forward.
Source: Huffington Post, "10 Ways Divorce Changes Your Parenting -- For The Better," Brittany Wong, July 22, 2015