Ending a marriage is difficult, even when divorce is clearly the best possible choice for all involved. Unfortunately, in many cases, only one spouse can recognize that it is time to call it quits. This can make a difficult scenario even more challenging, as the other spouse often wants to resist ending the marriage. The following tips are offered in the hopes of helping Maryland spouses move through the early stages of divorce with a resistant partner.
Perhaps the most important part of this process involves being compassionate. When a spouse is blindsided with the news that his or her partner wants to divorce, the response is often anger or bitterness. This does not bode well for a smooth path through the stages of divorce and can make the process far more contentious than need be. When breaking the news, spouses should be firm about their resolve to divorce, but also kind and compassionate.
Another important thing to remember is that the decision to divorce is not one that is made easily or lightly. It likely took a long time for the initiating spouse to decide to move toward divorce, and it is unfair to ask one's spouse to immediately accept that the marriage is ending. One should give the other party the time and space needed to adjust to the news, and to begin making plans for his or her own future.
When moving toward divorce, Maryland spouses should make an effort to ease the process for a resistant spouse. Doing so is not only the kind thing to do, it can also greatly improve the manner in which both parties will interact as the divorce process moves forward. There will be a number of important conversations that will need to take place as a couple moves toward divorce, and the tone of the initial discussions can set the standard for those to come.
Source: The Huffington Post, "5 Things to Do If You Want a Divorce But Your Husband Doesn't", Cheryl and Joe Dillon, Oct. 15, 2014