Many in Maryland believe that their own relationship is immune from any act of violence or abuse. This can make it difficult to accept that the person one loves is capable of causing them harm. In some cases, victims of domestic violence allow themselves to be harmed a number of times before seeking help, often because they cannot see that such actions are not isolated events, but are a pattern of behavior that usually does not end without intervention.
The recent high-profile divorce between actor Columbus Short and his wife Tanee McCall provides an example of the fact that domestic violence can happen to anyone. McCall filed a restraining order against her husband after a recent altercation in which he allegedly threatened to kill her and them himself. The pair began arguing over Short's belief that his wife was having an affair. Things became far more serious when he allegedly threatened to stab her if she did not admit to adultery.
The couple have had previous episodes of violence, including an incident in which Short was arrested for attacking McCall in front of his children. They share a 2-year-old daughter. McCall filed for divorce last fall, but withdrew that request in March. She has now filed for divorce again, citing irreconcilable differences.
As this case illustrates, domestic violence is not an isolated act, but is often part of a larger pattern of abusive treatment. For those in Maryland who have sustained threats, controlling behavior and physical harm at the hands of their partner, it is important to take steps to gain protection from additional harm. These behaviors are unlikely to end on their own, and can easily escalate into far more serious levels of danger. There are steps that can be taken to end a pattern of abuse, and even high-profile couples go through these means of achieving protection when necessary.
Source: New York Daily News, "'Scandal' star Columbus Short hit with restraining order for allegedly threatening to kill estranged wife, self: report", Margaret Eby, April 16, 2014