Rockville parents considering divorce may think that once papers are filed, they are free of their soon-to-be ex-spouse. Most parents will find, however, that this is not the case. Once papers are finalized and a stable child custody arrangement has been made, the next step is learning to co-parent effectively, which begins with the realization that both spouses will be involved forever. The reorganization of the family unit is shifted significantly after divorce, but so long as the interests of the child are put first, the arrangement can be extremely successful.
Most parents will find after divorce that their ex-spouse's life and theirs is not always cohesive. One key ingredient to ensuring that child custody arrangements are conducive to supporting children and being effective parents is teamwork. Some parents even go so far as to relocate nearer to their children in order to be actively involved.
It may be challenging for some parents to trust what goes on in the home of the other. In most cases, there will be differences in the daily life of the child between homes, and this is normal. What's important is that parents work together to understand these differences and not try to control what the other does. Regardless of what feelings parents may have toward one another, divorce does not mean that one parent suddenly becomes incapable or dangerous.
Child custody arrangements typically come with child support arrangements. Child support can be paid by either parent to the other to benefit the child's well-being and lifestyle. It is crucial to a successful family situation that child support payments be maintained as directed. If there is concern that the money is not being spent on the well-being of the children, then the paying parent should address the issues through appropriate channels and not merely stop paying.
After a divorce, Rockville parents may be tempted to compete with one another. This behavior not only damages the parental relationship, but it can also impact the relationships of both parents with children. Finding an amicable balance that will put children first is the best way to find child custody success during and after divorce.
Source: Huffington Post, "You May Be Divorced, But You're Still a Family," Virginia Gilbert, Aug. 3, 2012