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Bethesda MD Family Law Blog

Abusive relationships aren't always acknowledged

An abusive relationship is something that some people tend to think will never happen to them. In reality, there are many people who are in a relationship that is wrought with abuse, even if the person doesn't realize or acknowledge that there is a problem.

There are often some very important clues that can let the person know if he or she is in an abusive relationship. Whether the person in the relationship realizes this or if the situation is realized by an outsider, it is important that the person who is being abused takes action to get out of the situation.

Paternity: A concern for unmarried couples with children

Unmarried couples often share many of the social benefits of being married; however, each individual doesn't have the legal benefits of being married. This is a difficult spot to be in. Fortunately, there are ways that unmarried couples can protect themselves.

We recently discussed some of the ways that unmarried couples can protect their finances. While these are important, they are only the tip of the iceberg. Unmarried couple who have children need to take certain steps to protect themselves when it comes to paternity and child custody.

How can unmarried couples protect their finances?

Many people these days are opting to skip the legal step of getting married. Even when these couples move in together and start a life that is akin to a married couple, they choose to just stay committed instead of getting married.

There are many reasons why people do this. Maybe someone will lose financial assistance if he or she gets married or perhaps he or she just doesn't want to have to deal with being married in the eyes of the government. If you are in a committed relationship and don't want to get married but are choosing to live together, make sure that you take steps to protect your finances.

Treat your ex cordially when dealing with child custody matters

We recently discussed the reason why you and your ex should discuss matters related to your children. If you recall, one reason is that your child's immune system can be impacted by parents who have divorced and don't communicate. We want you to know that there are also other reasons for you and your ex to communicate.

As your children grow, they become more in tune with what is going on around them. While this might not seem like it is such a big deal, it does mean that they will better understand if there are tensions between you and your ex. This can lead to some animosity and stress because the child might start to think that he or she is the only reason why you and your ex are arguing.

Children can get ill when divorced parents don't communicate

Many people don't realize just how stressful divorce is until they live through one of their own. Did you know that divorce is very stressful for the children involved and not just the adults? This stress on the children is something that parents can help to control, but failing to do so can have negative impacts on the child's health.

Children who have parents who don't communicate during and after a divorce are more likely to get sick than children of parents who can continue to communicate. This is often the case because parents who don't communicate directly with each other will often use the children as messengers.

Domestic violence can change your divorce process

We've recently discussed the issues that are related to domestic violence. One thing that often comes from cases that involve domestic violence is that the couple ends up going through a divorce. If this is the case with your marriage, you should take steps to ensure that your rights are respected and that your best interests are protected throughout the case.

Domestic violence can sometimes bring strife to the divorce proceedings. This might mean that you have no choice but to go through a divorce trial. While this isn't how most people want to end their marriage, it might be necessary for you to protect yourself and your children. This could mean that your ex would only have supervised visits with the children, but the court will decide on this matter.

Emotional abuse is sometimes invisible from the outside

Abusive relationships are challenging for the person who is being abused. Many people think of these relationships as ones that involve physical abuse; however, there are other forms of abuse that can occur. One of these is emotional abuse. While emotional abuse doesn't come with bruises and other physical injuries, it is just as serious as physical abuse.

Emotional abuse is troubling because the abuser often presents sort of a fake facade that makes other people think that he or she is sweet and loving. What outsiders don't realize is that this isn't what is going on at home. Instead, the person tends to treat his or her spouse like a doormat.

Domestic violence can occur in same-sex relationships

Many people think of domestic violence as a problem that involves only opposite sex couples. This isn't at all the case. Even people who are in same-sex relationships can have issues with domestic violence. This is because domestic violence doesn't know sexual orientation, age, gender or any other similar factors.

While many people think that same-sex couples don't have to deal with the issue, the fact is that these couples have a rate of domestic violence that is at or above the rate of opposite sex couples. The typical types of domestic violence are the same as the ones that impact opposite sex couples.

Discuss important points for a child custody case

We recently discussed some methods you can use to help your children cope with the divorce. You have to think about your child's needs and emotions when you are going through a divorce. Your children's well being should be at the heart of all the decisions you make regarding the divorce, and child custody in particular.

We understand that you have some specific points you feel need to be addressed in the child custody case. Before you go into the first proceeding for the child custody matters, you should make a list of the points you want to attend to. This will help keep things on track as you work on getting the child custody agreement together.

Help your children work through learning about your divorce

A divorce is a major event for the adults involved, but it can often feel like the end of the world for children who are involved. Parents must take steps to help their children work through the issues that are caused by the divorce.

There are several ways that parents can help children cope with the divorce. The first of these starts at the moment that you decide the marriage is over. You shouldn't try to discount what is going on. Instead, let the children know what is happening. Discuss the future with them. Let the children know how life is going to change. This can help the child to prepare for the changes that are forthcoming.